Manners, morals and social skills are not ends in themselves. They can be shallow, superficial, artificial mannerisms and polite absurdities; They must have meaning based on connection with a higher outcome, which is the result of the educational process that prepares one for life.
We offer theory of instruction for teachers and presenters who conduct workshops on manners and etiquette.
The teacher/student relationship should assume the form of a presenter/participator mode, where the instructor provides the stimulation through content and guided learning exercises and the learner responds by becoming an active participant involved in the structure and interactive process of learning by doing and by personally practicing the skills repeatedly until they become natural and habitual through positive re-enforcement.
Creative re-enforcement techniques should be utilized such as:
- Visualization exercises
- Role playing
- Positive imagery
- Relaxation and stress reduction
- Aggression management
- Guided learning exercises
- Values clarification
Miss Sepia’s Guide to Etiquette
Tools and Rules can be printed for your learning pleasure
Miss Sepia’s Guide to Etiquette
Tools and Rules
Personal Behavioral Habits
Do’s
Keep a pleasant tone in your voice
Control your temper and how you handle your emotions
Think before you speak
Use good posture at all times
Sit up straight in your chair
Use good eye contact
Be helpful at home
Respect rules
Respect others’ privacy
Avoid arguments
Use facts to support your point of view
Don’t
Raise your voice or sound defensive
Argue with everybody about everything
Generalize or stereotype
Don’t litter
Don’t push
Never whisper in front of people or leave negative comments on social media
Never talk back to your parents or guardians
Look don’t touch
Don’t ruin a friendship over a disagreement
Finishing Touches Tools and Rules Copyright 1987, 1992, 2015 Chocolate Aristocrat
Positive Parenting
Model positive behavior
Help your child
Study with your child
Find new challenges you both of can learn
Read to your child
Listen to your child read
Give your child your undivided attention
Turn off the technology and spend quality time
Do not criticize your child when they read to you
Ask question about your child’s day
Speak clearly and directly
Remain calm while speaking
Realize and acknowledge when you need time out
Avoid arguments
Use a firm tone when speaking
Be consistent especially with Social Media!
PRAISE PRAISE PRAISE
Offer rewards for positive actions
Be aware of time spent on video games/TV
Take a walk together
Do a fun project together
Learn a new skill for fun with your child
Practice Being Soft & Gentle
Finishing Touches Tools and Rules Copyright 1987, 1992, 2015 Chocolate Aristocrat
Miss Sepia’s Guide to Etiquette
Star Report
Find your Stars…Not your scars!
Goal for the week__________________________________________________________________________________________
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Action I took_____________________________________________________________________________________________
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What I enjoyed____________________________________________________________________________________________
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Finishing Touches Journal
Finishing Touches Tools and Rules Copyright 1987, 1992, 2015 Chocolate Aristocrat
Miss Sepia’s Guide to Etiquette
Open Face Cucumber Sandwiches
Take amount of bread you desire, remove crust ends
with soft cream cheese spread on bread
slice cucumbers and place 4 slices on each bread
cut in fourths and garnish with basil or light pepper/paprika
serve on pretty platter or individual plate
Tea Sandwiches
Take amount of bread you desire
Prepare sliced bread with cream cheese/ mayo/honey mustard
Place turkey/ham/tuna/etc between slices or
Peanut butter & Jam with raisins
Make sandwich and trim crust ends
Slice in triangle/square pattern or use cookie cutters and place on pretty platter
Raspberry Tea
Boil water, place raspberry tea bag in pot
Serve with cold milk/soy/cream/lemon
May be served hot or iced!
Tea Breads can be purchased at Grocery (simple muffins, sliced)
Use plenty fruit!! Strawberries/grapes, melon, kiwi, oranges, apple w/ caramel
Vanilla yogurt with topped sliced strawberries or bananas
Create a gift with pretty ribbon, personalized with guest name
Allow one or two Tea Hosts to assist in serving tea or replenishing goodies
Conversations should be light, relaxed & fun!
Enjoy as you Practice Charm & Grace
Finishing Touches Tools and Rules Copyright 1987, 1992, 2015 Chocolate Aristocrat
PARENT INPUT FORM
Dear Parents:
At its very core, the education of your child is teamwork, and the partnership we form this year will be a key ingredient to success! The information & insights that you have to offer about your child’s strengths & needs would be most useful to me in planning for a year of healthy growth & development for your child. Please take a moment to complete the form below & return it to me at your earliest convenience. Your input is valuable and will be most appreciated. http://www.ChocolateAristocrat.com
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Child’s Name ___________________________________________________________
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- During this school year, I hope to see my child grow and develop in the following ways:
- Some important things that you should know about my child are:
- Some useful “ Tricks of the trade “ I’ve found for dealing with my child
Include:
- My greatest dream for my child is that he/she:_______________________
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And my greatest worry that ______________________________________
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Things my child does well & my child’s hobbies:
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